Many of us believe perfectionism is a positive. But researchers are finding that it is nothing short of dangerous, leading to a long list of health problems – and that it’s on the rise. In one of my earliest memories, I’m drawing. I don’t remember what the picture is...
Sex Addiction Help Blogs
Is Sexual Perfectionism Destroying Your Sex Life?
Separate your self-worth from your sexual performance. Some sexual perfectionists retreat from having sex rather than risk not measuring up in bed. They may be inclined to substitute masturbation for fearless, unabashed sex. Don’t substitute it for...
How to Conquer Perfectionism Before it Conquers You
Perfectionism is an illusion — we believe it makes us better but actually harm us. I used to struggle to start writing. I fell prey to the ‘first-line-syndrome’ — I fear that, if I couldn’t catch my reader’s attention immediately, they’ll...
This is how narcissists use sex to control you
Protect yourself from sexual narcissists by arming yourself with the understanding you need to find your strength again. Narcissists and dangerously insecure people that use their complexes to manipulate, control and abuse the people around them. Most narcissists...
How Narcissists Keep Their Mates from Leaving or Cheating
How narcissists keep their romantic partners from breaking up with them or cheating on them. Mate retention: Cost inflicting and benefit provisioning Narcissistic people often have poor relationships, in part because they usually utilize...
The Sure-fire Recipe for Creating a Sex Addict
How and why do people get addicted to Sex There is cook book recipe that works every time, in every kitchen. It’s a no fail recipe for creating a sex addict. Sex addicts are not born, “they’re created”. They’re mixed up and baked like a cake. And for anyone out there...
Emotional intimacy
Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, creativity, laughter and...
Healthy vs Addictive Sex
Addictive Sex Feels shamefulIs illicit, exploitativeCompromises valuesDraws on fear or excitementRe-enacts childhood abuseDisconnects one from oneselfCreates world of unrealityIs self-destructive and dangerousUses conquest or powerIs seductiveServes to medicate or...
The Harm of Watching Porn
73% of addict come from homes where there is not much affection and are rigid and “black and white.” Addiction can be explained as the repetition of a propensity that an individual does with his/her complete learning. At the end of the day, they unmistakably know and...
Fetishistic Disorder
Fetishistic disorder is an intense sexual attraction to either inanimate objects or to body parts not traditionally viewed as sexual, coupled with clinically significant distress or impairment. Fetishistic arousal may become a problem when it interferes with...